25 Ways To Identify Borderline Personality Disorder – BPD
The list below is not ordered by level of importance. Also, it is not the ultimate truth; not every Borderline Disordered person will exhibit all of these traits. Please understand that these are generalizations based upon my direct experience with an ex-girlfriend who undoubtably had Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Many ‘normal’ people will at times exhibit some of these traits. The difference between a ‘normal’ person and the disordered person is that these traits will persist over an extended period of time and the intensity with which these traits are exhibited will be perverse.
Many of these were red-flags that I noticed early on in my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. If you have witnessed some of these behaviors in your relationship, I suggest you tread carefully.
1. Their words do not match their actions.
2. Your gut / instincts tell you something is not right.
3. They seem too good to be true.
4. They villainize past significant others.
5. They do not have many friends.
6. The friendships they do have seem shallow.
7. They have an abusive and/or controlling parent.
8. They do not accept responsibility and are blameless for their actions.
9. Chances are they abuse alcohol and/or drugs.
10. They are secretive and hide things from you.
11. They try to keep you to from your friends or family.
12. They are physically attractive.
13. They lie.
14. They are impulsive.
15. They fall in love with you way too quickly.
16. They say what you want to hear.
17. They push you away and quickly pull you back.
18. You never feel completely secure about where you stand with them.
19. They have evidence of self-injury.
20. The sex is amazing beyond belief.
21. They quickly cycle through varying emotions.
22. They have friends of the opposite sex that make you uncomfortable.
23. They are always texting or chatting online.
24. They have distant, empty eyes.
25. They have acute, unwarranted emotional reactions.
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26. They harm you, then feeling guilty, want to do some thing nice “for” you; but you really don’t want it. They get furious; what right do YOU have to stop them from feeling less guilty about themselves? They are not really doing it FOR you, but TO you, for THEM. That’s why!
That’s my own observation. Here’s another, sage one, I read elsewhere…
27. Their view of you is not of their whole overall experience with you; it is how they felt the last time they saw you; or thought about you. And…
28. …and “facts” are not objective; but subjective, how they “feel”, are the facts. Facts are feelings; if the feelings are real, that makes real facts.